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Tathaastu magazine recently published my article “Emotions, Breathing, and Stress,” and as I was flipping through the magazine, I stumbled upon an article by Deepak Chopra! Perhaps it’s not a big deal, but I feel kind of flattered to have my work published next to Dr. Chopra’s. Here's the link:

http://www.tathaastumag.com/index.php?hid=1111541463

Turning Off Stress

Did you ever feel like you have too many thoughts that don’t let you relax or even sleep? I heard about this problem from several friends as well as patients. More often than not, these thoughts tend to be dark. They seem to be fueled by our fears and anxieties, but their cause can also be stress or simply too much work. While there are many possible ways to get rid of these thoughts, I highly recommend using your body, in other words, exercises. But before you decide to start jogging, let’s look at it a little bit deeper.

When you feel stressed or have an emotional state that you wish you didn’t have, try clenching and unclenching your hands. For our purpose here, it won’t matter how fast you do it, how tight you make your fists, or whether you fully extend your fingers. What’s crucial is how long you do it without interruptions. During the first, say, 100 repetitions, your emotional and mental states will remain unchanged, but once your hands and forearms begin to get tired, they will attract your mind’s attention. At this stage, your thoughts will struggle to continue racing, and occasional thoughts will be about the strange and seemingly pointless exercise that you’re doing with your hands. Your mind will make you stop doing the clenches-unclenches, and your hands will become progressively weaker. If you don’t stop, however, and continue bending and then straightening your fingers, you will soon reach a threshold during which your hands your hands get unbearably tired and your thoughts will slow down. Just moments later—provided that you don’t interrupt your exercise—you’ll break into sweat, and your mental and emotional states become clear.  

Dealing with Loneliness

One reader recently asked me if there’s a way to reduce the feeling of loneliness. She pointed out that she did not find it in my book.

While the reader was right: Secret Techniques for Controlling Sadness, Anger, Fear, Anxiety, and Other Emotions has no chapter dedicated to loneliness, but the book categorizes emotions into eight groups, according to where we experience them in our bodies, which is the topic of the first chapter. In a nutshell, these eight areas include all possible feelings that humans can experience. But how can you decide which area of your body does a particular emotion belong to? You can use the same approach that is used throughout the book: observation.

If you have ever experienced loneliness (and probably you have), simply recall that situation from your memory, and observe where you feel the sensations that your mind interprets as loneliness. You should feel it in the sides of your chest. From the book’s standpoint, whenever you experience an emotion in your lateral chest, that feeling belongs to the sadness category. This means that you can use any of the techniques for sadness described in the book to modify or turn off your loneliness.   

Boosting Confidence

I guess the title of my book doesn’t fully describe its content. More than once, I heard this question: I don’t understand why would anybody want to control their feelings? Just the other day, a friend of mine asked me this same question. Later, the same friend complained that he wishes he’d have more confidence. Probably, you wouldn’t necessarily classify confidence as an emotion, but from the book’s standpoint, it is a feeling. +If you wish to use the techniques included in Secret Techniques for Controlling Sadness, Anger, Fear, Anxiety, and Other Emotions to boost your confidence, then experiment with the techniques to diminish anxiety. You’ll see (or, rather, feel) that once your anxiety disappears but you continue applying the same technique further, you’ll be building your confidence.  

Turn to a Professional or Do It Yourself?

One medical doctor (he asked me not to use his real name), after reading my book, contacted me saying that instead of shutting down emotions that bother you, it’s wiser to turn to a trained professional—a psychologist, psychiatrist, or social worker—for help. I couldn’t agree or disagree with him, because it all depends on an individual and his or her specific situation. For example, suppose you wish to decrease or completely get rid of the anxiety that you feel before a job interview. What’s wrong with trying to learn how to control it using your natural resources? After all, this is what you instinctively do many times a day, and all you need is to observe how your body and mind pull it off. Do you really want to see a mental-health professional with every little thing?

Nobody seems to argue against children (and especially adults) to be potty trained, even though holding it in is not exactly natural. Being potty trained—as banal as this example may sound—really helps us to live in a civilized society. I see control of emotions as a next step in societal development.

The method explained in Secret Techniques for Controlling Sadness, Anger, Fear, Anxiety, and Other Emotions is ancient. It took me more than two decades to learn it well enough to clearly explain it to others. The method works remarkably well in real life, and I hope that somebody will find it valuable. At the very least, it’s an unusual (to a modern reader in the West) approach that provides the reader with an alternative solution to an emotional problem.  

Book's Cover

Ever since my book, Secret Techniques for Controlling Sadness, Anger, Fear, Anxiety, and Other Emotions, came out, I’ve received many questions from the readers. Many of those questions had to do with the order in which the readers tried the techniques explained in the book. While you should be able to do any of the included there techniques, you’ll have better results if you try the techniques in the order that they appear in the book, because the techniques that appear in the first chapters are easier to do than the ones that appear later in the text. If you still have questions, feel free to post them here.

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